Need Better Boundaries? It Starts With 3 Simple Interactions
Life is full of adventures, twists, turns, bumps in the road and so many lessons, repeated over and over until we learn. Learn what? I suppose boundaries for one! I got the chance to catch up with Emily Jameson, a Trauma Aware Transformational Life and Taboo Coach, and we covered not only how to set some boundaries but also the importance of learning when to say no.
Boundaries and the Art of When to Say No
There is no time like the present to take back your power by working through the uncomfortable and sometimes painful situations that arise when people step across your boundaries. Most of us might not even be aware we haven't set boundaries until we crash and burn by saying yes too much based on not wanting to disappoint, instead of truly being interested in something.
Emily works with her clients to get to the root of the issue because more times than not the feelings behind our boundaries or lack thereof run pretty deep in directions not obvious on the surface. Instead of just hoping for the best and barreling through our burnouts. Let's take a nice deep breath and start to do the inner work of knowing when to say no and identifying the red and green flags with those we deal with on a day-to-day base.
Three Strikes for the Red Flags
When someone comes at you sideways, let them know. Simply put. "I am not here for you to demean me." What they choose to do next, is not within your control but will help you identify who is in your corner and who is not. Their reaction is not even about you and the faster you can step outside of your feelings and vocalize your boundaries the fuller and more satisfying your life will be!
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